I hold an HP DV4030us laptop and an SE w810i mobile phone w/infrared. Can they do anything together?

Answer:

Yes! Buy an infrared dongle and twosome them. Easy. Do you have bluetooth on the phone? That's even easier. Buy a bluetooth dongle and two of a kind them like you do a phone to a bluetooth headphones.
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